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Curious and Curiouser Podcast


Nov 6, 2018

Today, Tracey and Cayly are taking on a slightly somber topic, as they discuss what to do in the wake of tragedy, particularly when it unexpectedly strikes someone you love. The question they start with is:  Are you allowed to be joyful when someone you know is grieving?

 

Specific topics discussed include:

 

- Why it’s okay to compartmentalize grief sometimes

- How grief and joy can coexist

- Why you don’t have to (and shouldn’t) take on your partner or close friend’s emotions

- How feelings are contagious

- How to know what’s yours and what’s not yours emotionally

- Why we can’t fix other people’s pain and what to do instead

- How to deal with larger scale tragedies

- Our inherent negativity bias and why we seek to avoid discomfort

- Investment without attachment

- And so much more!

 

As mentioned in the opening to this episode, there is a GoFundMe for Liz Winters of Sprout Wellness (https://www.gofundme.com/5kuabc-support-the-winters-family) to which Tracey and Cayly would truly appreciate you donating if you have even five dollars to spare. Liz is a repeat guest on the show and her family could really use as much support as possible right now. Thanks for considering!

 

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Resources:

 

Elizabeth Gilbert Ted Talk (https://www.ted.com/talks/the_ted_interview_elizabeth_gilbert_shows_up_for_everything)

Her post about grief as a full-bodied experience (https://www.facebook.com/GilbertLiz/videos/dear-ones-grief-is-a-full-body-experience-this-is-what-ive-learned-in-the-months/1939571796124926/)

Brene Brown empathy vs sympathy (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw)

Inside Out movie (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YEk_5aT5Gng)

Living Beautifully with Uncertainty and Change by Pema Chodron (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1611800765?ie=UTF8&tag=caylymarisa-20&camp=1789&linkCode=xm2&creativeASIN=1611800765)

When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1611803438?ie=UTF8&tag=caylymarisa-20&camp=1789&linkCode=xm2&creativeASIN=1611803438)

Broken Open by Elizabeth Lesser (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0375759913?ie=UTF8&tag=caylymarisa-20&camp=1789&linkCode=xm2&creativeASIN=0375759913)

I’ll Be Gone in the Dark by Michelle McNamara (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0062319787?ie=UTF8&tag=caylymarisa-20&camp=1789&linkCode=xm2&creativeASIN=0062319787)

 

 

Piquing Our Curiosity:

You’re Not Crazy, It’s Your Mother:  Understandind and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers by Danu Morrigan (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00EF5L2VW?ie=UTF8&tag=caylymarisa-20&camp=1789&linkCode=xm2&creativeASIN=B00EF5L2VW), a book Tracey highly recommends for anyone struggling to make sense of their relationship with their mother.